Pondering Connections/Relationships

I discovered, in talking with one of my friends in the Music School, that we do not make connections. Not with other people. What we're doing when we"make" connections, is really just finding a connection already there and building a relationship off of that, whether that relationship is romantic or not doesn't matter. Then, of course, to take that further, there is the concept of how you stand with that person: are you on talking terms, etc. And this part is the variable.

So, you start out with a connection that is alraedy there and found (I'm also convinced that everyone is connected, but some are stronger than others, which I need to explore further...), spend time together and build the relationship, or how two things are situated in relation to eachother. There is the biological relationship: my mom will always be my mom because she gave birth to me. And then there is the emotional relationship: my mom is also my best friend because we tell each other everything and have built up that emotional relationship beyond that of being family members. My dad and I on the other hand, are the very sporatic kinds of friends in that we won't talk for months, have a deep and long conversation, and then go months without really talking to each other. The same goes for my brother.

Biological Relationships:
Mother
Father
Brother
Sister
Cousin
Nephew
Niece
Aunt
Uncle
Roommate (sometimes)
Grandparent
Etc...

Emotional Relationships:
Frienemy
Acquaintence
Friend
Good Friend
Best Friend
Confidante
Boyfriend
Girlfriend
Fiancee
Spouse
Etc...

Now, there are three questions: 1. what about a godparent? As far as I know, godparents are chosen either by the parents when a child is born, or by the child herself later. So, in which category doe that fall? 2. What about a child who has never known their biological parent(s)? 3. Which category does Spouse really fall under?

Here is a possible answer: the relationships that we choose to make are emotional. So, for the godparent chosen by the child, obviously, that is an emotional relationship. The relationships we don't choose are biological, even if by science they aren't. So, if an adopted child--with no memory of her biological parents--grows up with her adopted parents, but always knowing them as Mom and Dad, then she has two sets of "biological" parents: the ones who actually made up her DNA, and the ones who actually raised her. So, what about the spouse then? In my opinion, this is a special case. In this age and society, you choose your spouse, obviously, while you are courting them. That is clearly an emotional relationship that needed to grow. However, once you make that covenant to be with someone forever, they become a part of your family as the two of you are starting your own. So, in my opinion, a spouse is an emotional relationship that becomes a biological one because you choose each other as family.

So, The whole reason for the categories is because you can have two relationships with one person. For example, My sister is my sister. but, she is also a very good friend. A few years ago, though, she was more like a frienemy, or an acquaintence. But, because we took the time to build our relationship, it transcended beyond the biological and into the emotional. (This is what you have to do with spouses, too, once they become a biological relationship. You MUST keep building the emotional relationship outside of that, and continue to choose each other every day. This means setting aside time for each other.)

These are my thoughts. They aren't very organized, but I'm still discovering. :)

TTFN,
S